I devote this post to all girls who believe they love their boyfriend so deeply that they could bare anything, I dovete it to Lyd , with who we have recently discussed the need for surprizes in a relationship, and I also devote it to everyone who loves the film “White Oleander” or the flower appreciators.
How much do we need surprizes in a relationship? Can’t really say? Yeah, sure it’s a difficult question to answer, for it has two possible understandings – do we need bad surprizes or do we need good ones? Then many people would say they’d prefer the good surprizes. However those who are smart and like to use their brain(such as Lyd) would ask – What do you mean? What is a good surprize and what is a bad surprize? How can we differ them? Aren’t they the same – surprizes?!Good questions! Yeah, i agree with you, however I’m one of those who would not be able to answer this question at all! 
I have a tenet not to define what’s good and what’s bad. I have been persuaded in that principle during many many years while watching all kinds of people and situations one could meet. However once I broke that tenet, and that brought me a lot of unpleasant feelings! I fall in love. You know what’ s the beginning like – flowers and fairy tales, everything’s perfect, a new harmony surrounds your heart, you feel useful and you find sense in everything you do, untill….
until you meet the reality! The reality is full of reasons, and acts followed by their consequenses. You should always be aware of anything, you should always use your brain and never allow the emotions and feelings lead you! The best relationships are based on a whole lot of efforts by the both mates, that’s true! And what about the surprizes? Two days ago, it was after our course, when my ex-boyfriend surprized me in a very unpleasant way. He was on a party, he was drunk, so he gave his mobile phone to some other drunks to shit whith me. However I’m not so blonde! It took me just 15 minutes to find out who are those drunks and who appears to have caused this. I put all of them four in their places and they didnt try to shit with me again! However the surprize was very unpleasant. I didn’t expect my ex-boyfriend to do such a thing, I believed he is a nice friend, I even was starting to sorry that I broke up with him. So such a bad surprize shows how I made a mistake while ignoring one of my own rules! How much do we need such surprizes? Do we need such bad surprizes at all?! And what about the good surprizes – do we need them? Can you generally say we need surprizes? Hmm, some may think I’m speaking like a relativist, but good and bad are always soo close to each other that as soon as you believe you have distinguished them, they replace right at the tmoment! I thought it is different with love, unfortunately it is not! You should accept the strong and the weak points of your mate, because they can mix anytime! Really, ANYTIME! You should be aware and thinking, not led by emotions and feelings. Try to follow this advice, and you’ll see how easier life could be!
May 28, 2007 at 12:00 am
no feelings? we do need feelings. if we did not have feelings, we would be unable to make decisions
May 30, 2007 at 9:43 am
we need our feelings to lead us, after we have used our ability to reason. everyone is led by his feelings
June 3, 2007 at 10:43 pm
thinking with your intelect, without your feelings. that’s what reasoning is supposed to be
June 29, 2008 at 10:39 am
We are often tricked by something like what has been said above “Never try to determine what’s good and what’s bad, because as soon as you differ them, these both automatically replace!”
We usually get inspired by such quotes but there is a possibility of higher manipulator who wants us to be tricked. So free your mind, and trust your instincts. Take your decisions about things and experience life.
You are likely to build an infinite number of such principles for yourself by your own experience. No wonder one of those surpasses the one mentioned above. xD
November 19, 2008 at 3:32 am
both good and bad need one anther to be called this..everyone is not prefect and thing can happen but only he/she can determent what the differ between good and bad.quotes like this tell the tales of how we all think and everyone has it own ways of doing it.there is no answer to being surprises ether it good or bad a surprises is just a a surprises ok..