June 23, 2007
To everyone who is not afraid of being responsible… for others
Posted by Nikki under just my thoughts..Here is one of those situations that require a lot of wisdom in order to be solved:
Emagine a very good friend of yours decides to commit a suicide and wants to do it with pills. You are the best friend of his and you love this person very much(he loves you too) That’s why you are the only whom he tells his plans. He also asks you to give him find those pills for him(he couldn’t find them anywhere).What would you do? Would you do everything in order to save his life, or help him?(you’re supposed to be his closest person)I think you should first answer some questions for yourself. Why does he want to suicide? Why is he asking you for assistance, and do you have the power to decide who lives and who dies. Let’s think over the first one. Why do people suicide? This is one of those question that could be answered with the very popular phrase “Love Conqueres Everything!” Everything that could be so scary, or unbearable could be made better if there was more love! Think over that, find examples for yourself about different kinds of reasons that make people suicide and you’ll see all those peopel just needed more love! And now let’s answer the second question. Why does your friend tell you all of his plans, why is he telling you? Could that mean an appeal to you, that should attract you, and make you pay more attention to this person? As his closest friendyou’re supposed to be really loved by this person. Here comes again the question about love, care and everything we do for thosew who we love. Think about that!
Are you ready? Now we can go to the third question. Do you have the right to decide who lives and who dies? Do you have any choice? Thetruth is taht as his closest person you have a tremendous influence over this person and “With th egreat power comes the great responsibility!” Of course you have the power to decide who lives and who dies if this is a matter of someone who you love! People have created gods to take the responsibility of their own deeds instead of them, and let alone the responsibility for other people! I would try to do my best in order to heal this person, and remove the reason that makes him suicide. I would make him feel loved. Ok, I’m sure you have already thought about another very similar situatin. Someone tells you he’s going to suicide if you don’t come back to him, because he loves you very much, but you don’t love him any more. Then would you sacrifice your love, your life and your happines just to save someone’s life? And can we call this love? It may sound nasty but I wouldn’t sacrifice my love, happyness and lifetime in order to fall in somebody’s trap just to save his life. In that case this is a person who perhaps isn’t grown enough to face the real life and cope with his own feelings. the choice is his only! In teh first case when you love the person then you are responsible! That’s the difference. You remmember what the fox says to teh Little Prince - “You’re responsible for what you tame”. And what if you find yourself in the second situation? Are you still responsible for the fact that this person is going to suicide!? I’d liek to change the phrase of the fox - “You are responsible for those who you love!”
June 23, 2007 at 11:30 pm
are you responsible ONLY for the once you love? and what does responsible mean? can you conrol everything? what if you fail?
June 24, 2007 at 12:16 am
you shouldn’t fail, and that’s what all the drama goes around
June 24, 2007 at 11:28 am
and what if you fail?
June 24, 2007 at 4:32 pm
I’d try to talk to anyone who’s suicidal. Doesn’t matter whether they’re strangers, friends, or very close friends. I don’t think I can give answers to your questions, I just feel that’s the right thing to do.
June 24, 2007 at 4:34 pm
If you fail the consequences may be fatal. Emagine you go to a doctor whom you expect to operate you and then you to be fine. However if this doctor fail you should go for a second time to operate you. And you could only be lucky if it is not a very serious operation, however there are peopel with serious operations, that are life saving. What if the doctor fail?
That is called responsibility, you should do it and take the responsibility that you will succeed. What about the situaton with the suicide(it is extracted form a Paulo Coelho’s book - “Veronica Decides to Die” I highly recomend it to you it is very very interesting) If you fail saving this person he will die! Then what if you fail? 
That’s why people fear responsibility because they are not so sure they would 100% succed! That’s why they have created gods who say “It’s not you who decide whether one lives or dies” Lets take Alexander Macedonsky for example. He ruled almost the whole world and he set the beginning of a new era that changed the human history, however he never fought on Monday and most of his victories are after he had recieved some “god signs” You can read “Plutarch - Ysporedni Jivotopisi” if you don’t trust me. This is a n example how all people fear the responsibility. even you now ask “What if you fail?” Well, you mustn’t fail 
That’s why My post’s title is “to those who ARE NOT AFRAID of being responsible…” What does “responsible” mean? It means to be able to control a situation. You can’t rule everything, yeah, but if you feel responsible enough then you wouldn’t fail after you have started doing something 
June 28, 2007 at 2:10 pm
i would do whatever i feel the right thing to do, including taking responsibility,but not everything depends on me solely, so i accept the possibility to fail. do YOU accept the possibility to fail?
June 28, 2007 at 2:54 pm
We all learn from our mistakes and that’s why I do not fear making mistakes, but if it something really important I would do it if I’m responssible enough. I’m not afraid to risk and lose in many situations, such as you are, however would you become a surgeon?! There are different TYPES of situations. Can you say all the situations are equal. There are some in which you should risk and not fear the risk and there are other which require you to be really really responsible. We’re talking about the second ones in which you shouldn’t fail!